By Holly Malbin
What I’ve done here is talked about my feelings: a phrase that carries stigma in itself. I can point out so many other terms in this post that might lead to judgment, because I understand how thick the stigmas can be. I am not a psychologist. I don’t have any certifications or degrees in the field of psychology. The only qualifications I can offer for my words are more than fourteen years of experience on the patient side. I am not an expert on psychology or mental health. I am, however, deeply passionate about fighting the stigmas. I don’t mean the stigma where I feel judged by misinformed patrons when I reach out for help. I mean the stigmas that I feel when health care providers throw medication at me instead of helping me understand what is happening and show me I’m not alone. I mean the stigmas that I feel which are self-imposed when I start thinking that maybe I’m overreacting. I mean the stigmas that I feel from my loved ones when I feel like they think the problem is going to go away because I am going through treatment. Even in this post, I have felt the need to explain myself. I have felt a strong inclination to select words that I could defend in the case of judgment. I have hope for a world where this is not the case, but I need help. Please help me by setting an example that we can speak out against the stigma. Please don’t ignore this issue. I understand it is scary—I just went through writing this post; feeling anxious and terrified all the while. I am choosing to share because I have hope. I am shamelessly begging you to help spread the word because this cause is worth it.
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