Reflections on Medicine, Shame and Stigma

By Ken Duckworth, M.D. | Sep. 17, 2018


As I was entering medical school, I found out that my mother had made a postpartum suicide attempt. I did not find out from her; it was shared with me in hushed tones by another family member who thought I should know, “now that I was going to be a doctor.” I was quite surprised by this information. And it made me sad to think that this wasn’t a topic she felt she could openly discuss. 

Suicide is a challenging issue for all of us. Secrecy surrounds the topic, with shame as a common co-traveler. That’s why it’s an honor for me to be a small part of NAMI’s movement to make seeking help and support more acceptable. I’ve met many resilient people in the NAMI community who have overcome suicidal thoughts or actions. Often because there was a person who stood by them during a crisis or a new treatment approach that made a difference in their life. Some found sobriety for a co-occurring substance use disorder. Others found clozapine or lithium, which have been shown to reduce suicidal thinking. Some learned coping skills through a psychotherapy like cognitive behavioral therapy or dialectical behavioral therapy. Many found relief in the community of NAMI. Regardless of how, their suicidal thoughts or actions were talked about and changed.

My field sorely needs similar conversation and change. Doctors also have high rates of suicide and it’s a major issue that some of the doctors we turn to for care are often not taking care of themselves. We need to teach help-seeking behaviors in the medical and psychiatric fields. Doctors need the same support and encouragement to get help as their patients. 

I lost a patient to suicide early in my psychiatric residency. This was a person with many strengths, who was also in tremendous psychological pain. I worried about him during off-hours and felt powerless to help at times. After I learned of his tragic outcome, I was upset, slept poorly and struggled at work for months. I was worried I had said the wrong thing or had failed in some way as an inexperienced psychiatrist. I seriously considered leaving the field and entering another specialty. I was lucky to receive support and empathy from my colleagues and supervisors as they encouraged me to seek therapy. I did my best to carry on, but I never forgot about this patient and his suffering.

Last year, at an American Psychiatric Association (APA) event, I was impressed that even doctors are wondering if they worry, struggle and stress too much. APA president Anita Everett reviewed the stresses that commonly consume doctors and announced that psychiatric wellness would be a core feature of her leadership. Dr. Everett’s thoughtfulness and openness on the stresses doctors face and her emphasis on help-seeking was powerful; her efforts have started many overdue conversations across the entire field of medicine. Unfortunately, the same shame that led to the secrecy around my mother’s postpartum suicide attempt is alive and well in the medical field. 

Doctors don’t have all the answers for stress, mental illness and suicide—our most challenging aspects of being human. Medical culture needs to continually evolve and learn from the remarkable and resilient people like those I have met at NAMI. Facing your mental health challenges head-on and working to get help with a supportive community behind you is a key piece of NAMI culture. It’s a culture we can all learn from.


Ken Duckworth is medical director at NAMI.


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Diane, good points about treating and understanding chronic pain. My mother’s Suicide was in part due to chronic pain issues and difficulties with treatments and MD’s willing to treat her pain appropriately. Continuing education is a requirement for health care professionals. Perhaps there needs to be more education regarding chronic pain management, quality of living and the risk of Suicide.
9/26/2018 8:02:54 AM

Lizanne Corbit
Thank you for sharing this incredible honest, and important read. It's vital that we keep lines of communication open around suicide and mental health. No one benefits from letting shame continue to drive and override. Beautifully said - "Facing your mental health challenges head-on and working to get help with a supportive community behind you is a key piece of NAMI culture. It’s a culture we can all learn from."
9/19/2018 12:17:23 AM

Diane M Samp
I think this is great because Dr's do not have all the answers, especially about chronic pain & how I as having a few very valid & verifiable conditions, my life line of "2" medications were abruptly stopped only because of the pressure put on Dr's to STOP prescribing. I have taken my medications responsibly, don't drink alcohol, quit smoking in 2007, & really understood why so many were choosing suicide rather than live in pain & go untreated...basically ignored. It is beyond wrong to have a one for all category for people who take pain medications that we are all addicts, or will become one or are just seeking a high. They don't want deaths on their hands so they are really leaving patients who go to them for help, turned away to seek help out of desperation...& that is where it all goes wrong. Monitoring & conditions are options that can be done. A person in pain should not feel ashamed because they have a chronic lifelong condition left by a failed surgery or disease. It is NOT doing no harm. I am SO tired of the addiction commercials on tv that only add to the shame put upon us for something we probably never asked for in the first place. And that pain scale is another joke of a tool that is totally different for every persons tollerance. I agree medications shouldn't be handed out without good cause but to withhold them is also wrong. It is physical & mentally hell to not have your normal healthy they all need to re evaluate what they think they know about suffering!!!!
9/18/2018 5:42:19 PM